Setting Boundaries In Your Recovery

~" I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me . .
All I ask is that you respect me as a human being " ~

When setting boundaries you first have to decide what you will and will not accept
From other people.  You will know when you need to set boundaries by paying attention to
Your feelings.  Do other people expect you do to do things that you are uncomfortable with
But you do these things anyway just to make the other person happy?  You do these things but
Are left feeling angry, hurt or frustrated...If so, it's time to learn to set boundaries.

      You can begin by writing a list of all the things that you will not accept from the person
Making these requests from you.  Go over your list as many times as it takes to memorize it,
This will make it easier for you when you address these issues with the other person.
You may feel a bit uneasy setting boundaries and with confronting people at first, that's normal,
Just try to remember that the more you set boundaries and the more you practice,
the easier it will get for you to do.  You are worth it!

When confronting the other person be very clear about what you will not accept from
Them.  Try to say it in a matter of fact way.  It will probably be and most often is difficult for the
Other person to get used to the new found you, so expect that some people may test you to see how serious you are.   Stick with it and try not to alter anything that you've said.

If the person continues making these unacceptable requests from you, you might want to
Consider a short term separation from them.  That may be difficult but it is something that we
Have to do for ourselves sometimes.  More often than not, the person will begin to take you
Seriously if you enforce and stick to what you've said and will eventually come back around
With a whole new respect for you.

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